LGBTQ couples counseling Los Angeles

LGBTQ+ couples, throuples, open & poly relationships

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Your relationship deserves a therapist who actually gets it

You've been here before.

You finally worked up the nerve to call a therapist — maybe even a few — and within the first session you could feel it. The slight hesitation when you described your relationship structure. The questions that felt more like assessment than curiosity. The subtle nudge, disguised as a therapeutic question, toward something more "conventional."

You left feeling more alone than when you walked in.

Finding a therapist who is genuinely affirming — not just tolerant, not just technically non-judgmental, but someone who actually understands LGBTQ+ relationships, non-monogamy, and the specific dynamics that come with them — is exhausting. And it's not fair that you have to spend therapy sessions educating your therapist before you can do any real work.

You don't want a therapist who sees your relationship structure as the problem to be solved. You want someone who can meet you inside your relationship and help you build something that works.

Here's what you already know but haven't heard many therapists say out loud:

The structure of your relationship isn't what's causing the pain.

Whether you're in a same-sex partnership navigating the aftermath of coming out to your families, a throuple working through jealousy and agreements, or partners in an open relationship trying to figure out why something that felt right on paper keeps feeling hard in practice — the issues underneath are the same issues that show up in every relationship. Communication. Trust. Attachment. Vulnerability. Fear of abandonment. The old wounds each person brings in.

The difference is that you're doing this without a roadmap. Without family models. Often without community. Sometimes while one or both of you are still navigating your own identity — still figuring out what you want, who you are, and how to ask for both.

And for some of you, there's another layer: navigating all of this inside a family or cultural context that doesn't have language for what you are. Where being out carries real risk. Where love and shame exist at the same time.

That's a lot to hold. And it deserves real, skilled, non-judgmental support.

 

Therapy doesn't have to mean sitting across from someone who is quietly rooting against your relationship structure.

What becomes possible when you work with a therapist who is genuinely sex positive and LGBTQ+ affirming — not as a marketing term, but as a lived value:

You can bring the real problem into the room. Not a sanitized version designed to avoid the therapist's discomfort. The actual thing — the jealousy, the miscommunication, the moment one partner wanted to close the relationship and the other didn't, the grief of a family that won't acknowledge your partner, the exhaustion of being out at work but closeted at home.

Couples and partners can build the communication skills to navigate the specific dynamics of their relationship — agreements, boundaries, metamour relationships, processing jealousy without it becoming a verdict on the relationship.

And over time, each person can do the deeper individual work that makes any relationship — of any structure — more sustainable: understanding your attachment patterns, your triggers, your needs, and how to express them without losing yourself or the people you love.

LGBTQ couples counseling in Los Angeles

I work with LGBTQ+ individuals, couples, throuples, and partners in open and polyamorous relationships. I am sex positive. I am genuinely affirming — which means your relationship structure is not up for debate in my office. My job is to help you build the relationship you actually want, not redirect you toward one that's more comfortable for me.

I bring a psychodynamic, relational lens to this work. That means we don't just focus on communication techniques — though we do that too. We look at the patterns each person brings in. The ways past relationships, family dynamics, and internalized shame shape what happens between partners. The ways attachment and fear show up as conflict or distance.

For South Asian and other LGBTQ+ clients navigating cultural complexity — family rejection, dual identity, the weight of log kya kahenge alongside the reality of who you love — I bring both cultural fluency and genuine care. You don't have to translate your experience for me.

Sessions are available for:

  • Same-sex and queer couples

  • Throuples and multi-partner relationships

  • Partners in open or polyamorous relationships

  • Individuals navigating LGBTQ+ identity within relationships or families

  • Partners at different stages of coming out or disclosure

In person in Pasadena. Virtually throughout California.

I have 26 years of clinical experience and have been working with LGBTQ+ clients and couples throughout my career. Free 20-minute phone consultation for all new inquiries.